A lesson in trying

This week I had the pleasure of teaching yoga to a team of rugby union players.  I wasn’t too sure how it would pan out.  The coach hadn’t told the men that they’d be doing yoga at training (probably knowing many might not turn up if they knew!) so when they arrived to see l’il old me there with my mat and fisherman pants, I saw their faces drop one by one, like a line of dominos.

I attempted to soothe their terror by requesting they take off their clothes for some tantric yoga and a discussion on chakras.  Some nervous laughter and then we were off – not with our clothing but with our practice, starting with a musing on how yoga might be good for the game of football.  Yoga is being increasingly used in the world of elite sports with many professional rugby union, league and AFL teams including yoga in their training programmes.  Trainers are recognising the benefits of yoga, particularly for flexibility and injury prevention/management as well as for mental grounding.   A football team is a veritable hot bed of injuries.  It’s a high impact sport where the body and emotions are pushed to extremes.

I had expected some resistance to the class.  That was no surprise.  Because yoga is so often ill-perceived in parts of society as ‘soft’ or ‘feminine’ or ‘weird’, especially by macho men.  Admittedly, I did not bust out any OMS (this was not what I was there for).  But what I didn’t expect was the unfolding of perhaps the most focussed group of students I have ever taught.  These blokes, initially tentative, put their hearts and souls into every single asana instructed to them.  They tried harder than any other group of students I’ve seen.  It was as if they were not prepared to settle for anything less than their best.

Competitiveness is discouraged in yoga because it’s perceived as a reaction of the ego as well as a risk leading to unsafe practice (work within your limitations, no strain!) but every character trait or quality is a two-sided coin.  In this case, this innate competitiveness yielded a special kind of discipline – a tenacity I’ve not encountered in a general class.  It was deeply admirable.  And discipline (abhyasa) is a central tenet of yoga – one cannot progress without discipline.  And it’s something I lack.

I’ve never been into competitive sports.  I’ve never had the drive.  I’d rather put my hands up in the air, surrender and let the other person win.  Winning doesn’t seem that important to me.  But when I think about it, this disinterest in competing (even with myself) is more about self-defeat than it is about surrender.  This is more about my inability to lose than it is about a gracious letting go.  If you don’t try, you can’t lose.  Yoga tests our self-image simply by being challenging.  How we react to a challenge reveals much to us about ourselves.

What these guys had that I do not is faith – faith that if they try, they will achieve.  No doubt.  Giving up is not in their vocabulary.  That’s not to say that this is the perfect state of being – being able to give up (detach) lessens our attachment to suffering and the desires of the ego and I’m sure there were some frustrations in the room and some unnecessarily sore muscles the following day.  But I’d rather that tenacious part of my ego was activated, than the part that gives up before it tries.

I know it’s not about my gratification but I walked out at the end of that session basking in a big inner glow even though at the time, I didn’t really know why.  It took me a few days of thinking about it.  These blokes knew nothing about yoga, or what they thought they knew pushed them way out of their comfort zones.  But they had a royal go, they put everything in.  I had walked into that class with the idea that I might be able to give them something.  But they ended up giving something to me.

© The Yoga Experiment, 2012

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3 thoughts on “A lesson in trying

  1. Thanks for sharing that story Jen, it’s always a pleasure to read your writings….I wonder if the rugby team won their next game?

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